I have 3 little ones that came with us to California and for as difficult as its been for me to adjust to this new place, it's been even more so for them. Especially for Lu, she is the oldest, in school and feeling the real effects of our move. She misses her friends in Utah and is kind of shy when it comes to inserting herself with this new crowd. She is really feeling it and its killing me. I want to break down and cry when she comes home and says that she hasn't played with anyone that day and that she doesn't have any friends. What do I say to that? All I can think of is that she will find friends and it will get better and easier for her. Although, she isn't feeling that and I hope that it does happen soon so she doesn't stop believing the things I say to try to encourage her. She has one friend that she's made and she really likes her. She thinks that she is super cool. This little girl has a star wars backpack and Lu thinks that is about the coolest thing ever! My hope is that this friend will continue to be nice to her and that she will eventually gain more friends because of it.
Lu came into us the other night after bedtime and started crying. She told us about a couple girls that sit at her table and tease her at school because she doesn't work as fast as they do. I thought that the curriculum would be different here and that she might have a bit of a struggle fitting in with the way things are taught here, but I had no idea just how far behind she would be. At this point in the year she is a year behind all the other kids. Now, I met with her teacher for parent/teacher conferences before we moved and she said that Lu was pretty well on par with all the other kids. They are on a different, but same curriculum here. The same in the way that Utah started implementing it last year and different in that California implemented it when it was first released, which gives them like a 5 year advantage. All of the kids in her class learned what she was learning at her old school in Kindergarten. So, now we need to find a quick solution to fix this problem and in order to do that, we need to throw a bunch of money at it to get results fast. Because, the alternative is that she repeat the 1st grade, and that just can't be an option.
Buddy is my pal. He is a good boy, but the thing that he has struggled with so much since we've been here is loneliness. He just wants a friend. I am trying my hardest to get him to meet some of the other kids around here so he can play with them. And in the meantime am trying to take time to play with him myself. I'm not sure the way that other people work around here, but it seems that it is easier to pull nails out from under my nail beds then it is to get my little boy together with another little boy to play for an hour. Maybe its me. I'd feel a whole lot better knowing that it is me and that it has nothing to do with my little man. He is much too little and sweet to be so lonely all the time.
Erry is just happy to be here. The biggest struggle I've had with her is her eczema. And living here I've come to find out that eczema is aggravated by sand and salt water. Awesome. I've been losing the battle with her eczema ever since we got here. Some days it's better than others, but it doesn't ever seem to go away completely. I can't wait for her to potty train. Hopefully that will happen sooner as opposed to later this year.
Overall I'd say that we are adjusting as best as we can. I feel pretty helpless some days on my kids behalf. I wish that I could take all their pain away and just let them be kids. But, then I think that maybe Heavenly Father is trying to teach me something and I should have more faith. But, as soon as one of them cries about not having anyone to play with I wonder what that is teaching them, not me. I am trying my best to make connections and hopefully they will find some good friends here soon. Because, we really aren't going to be going anywhere anytime soon.